It doesn't mean that I value your friendship any less. How can I further avoid hurting her feelings and damaging our friendship?Ĭall her up and say, “Hey, I hope you're not upset about not being my matron of honor. I'm starting to get anxiety over all of this mess. I mean dang, I value our friendship but I've had pimples last longer than she's been around. I don't know what to think of my friend's about-face. So when I told my newest close friend, she all of a sudden became aloof and short with me. Right after my future husband and I announced we were tying the knot, one of the first questions every female in my life wanted to know was, “Who will be the matron of honor?” I have a few close friends in my circle but none have been closer longer than my childhood friend. If that's the case, it only cost you $500 to get rid of her. On the other hand, if your cousin is willing to jeopardize a lifelong friendship over a few hundred dollars, maybe the loan was a blessing in disguise and that's what it took to expose who she truly is: an ungrateful user. Let her know if she doesn't agree to the terms or miss a payment you will drag her butt into a small claims court. Since your cousin is dodging you, send her a certified letter in the mail with a date for her to start paying you installments on the loan. I don't care if it's your mama, make sure she signs a promissory note. Like you, I learned the latter the hard way. There are three things in life you should never do: cheer for the visiting team, rat out a friend and loan money to relatives. You stand a better chance seeing the Pope at a Geto Boys concert doing the Dougie than you do getting your scratch back. Do you know of a way I can get her to repay me and salvage our friendship? I still love my cousin but I want my money back. The other day I went over to her house to confront her and we got into a big altercation. I had to use the money for car repairs.” Then she started being evasive by not returning my calls.
At first she gave me excuses like, “Oh I'll pay you next week. I have asked her several times for my money back. My cousin knows that I'm merely getting by with living expenses and really didn't have the money to give in the first place. It makes me sick to my stomach that I am in this position fighting with someone who I considered to be a best friend and sister.
Once we became adults the pattern continued with girls night out, shopping trips and get-togethers. While growing up we did everything together: sleepovers, birthday parties, gymnastics, dance, you name it. The puzzling thing is that we were so close until this incident happened. She promised to pay me back when she got paid, but to this day I have yet to see one red cent. I loaned my cousin $500 more than six months ago. Editor's note: Rap pioneer and Geto Boys member Willie D dispenses sage advice, for free! Something on your mind? Ask Willie D!
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